Tuesday 27 May 2008

Empty Arms


25th May was my Blogosversary and it also marked the start of NaComLeavMo. I am playing catchup today. Melissa from Stirrup Queens and Sperm Palace Jesters wrote

... Blog writing for a month is all good and fine; but what about the other side of blogging--the comment leaving? Comment leaving is an integral part of blogging. Without comments, blog posts are as flat as...Flat Stanley. Blogging is a conversation.

Welcome ... If you are visiting me for NaComLeavMo and are struggling with infertility or pregnancy loss, I am sorry if the pictures of my IVF twins upsets you. My story is complex.

For 14 years I've straddled the realms of long term infertility, local adoption, surprise pregnancy and the subsequent unexplained loss of that precious little girl when I was 6 months pregnant in 2004 (Charlotte was stillborn) .Then we embarked on an IVF journey that gave us our miracle boys in 2006.

I want to share this with you Empty Arms .If you want to know how someone suffering infertility feels please watch this video too and share it.

Anyway from May 25th to June 25th I am up for a full month of intense comment leaving.*gasp*

I look forward to visiting you and I hope to meet many new people and share my story too. It should be a lot of fun.

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Anonymous said...

Oh my. That video was very heartbraking and emotional. Sometimes as people, we have to stop and take a moment to look at life through someone elses eyes. I think that video will help.

DC said...

Thank you so much for stopping by my blog to say hello!

I'm really enjoying your blog. You have been through so much and are an incredibly strong woman. Oh, and your twins are adorable!!!

I'll be checking in periodically to see how you're doing. Please keep in touch! :)

Anonymous said...

Hi Trish, I have found you via NaComLeavMo.

I too am an Aussie blogger.

Have just looked at the photos of your boys - gorgeous!!

Anonymous said...

Hi Trish, just checking in to let you know that the lump was nothing to worry about, thank goodness!
Just a small cyst, and now I've been checked out I *know* there's nothing else there either.
Thanks for your support in the past week :)
Take care,
Jane :)

Aunt Becky said...

I am coming by from um..Na...something. You know where I'm from.

And I'm going to be back. I read a number of blogs like yours.

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your daughter Charlotte. Sorry doesn't begin to describe how I feel.

Princess New York said...

Congratulations Trish on the Blogoversary!

Thank you for the All Mediocre shout-out. Happy commenting!

Nadine said...

Wow your twin boys are absolutely so cute.
sorry to hear of your losses, but, I'm glad that you conquered the infertility beast.

Unknown said...

My word, good luck with all the commenting you're going to be doing!

Kim said...

Your boys are so cute! I understand feeling bad about others seeing baby pictures. I have three boys after a lot of fertility treatments and numerous miscarriages. Here from NCLM!

Momisodes said...

I had no idea about NaComLeavMo. Thanks so much for posting. I will have to check it out :)

Jamie said...

Thanks for the comment on my site!! I have enjoyed NaComLeavMo so much and I am only on Day 3.

Thank you for sharing your story and your Miracle Boys are *beautiful*

Erin said...

I'm also here from NaComLeavMo and think your IVF twins are absolutely preciously beautiful. Your story is so complex and heartwrenching in so many ways, and I am glad that you now have three precious sons to share your love and life with you.

Laura Paxton said...

Oh, goody! comments! I LOVE comments...and I try to leave some occasionally, too!

♥.Trish.♥ Drumboys said...

thanks Project Mommy.

thank you DC - no more than many others on this journey

Hi Sharon - nice to meet another Aussie blogger.

Jane - that is wonderful news. I am sure you are most relieved.

Becky -thanks for your warm words.

Thanks Princess New York - I hope many visitor see it .I will do a post about it soon.

Duck - thank you I so glad I did too.

Jenty- I won't forget you ;)Your photography is awesome.

Thanks Kim - congratulations on your boys. Glad you beat the beast too.

Hi Sandy - lovely to see you.

Jamied - so am I but how am I going to fit so many new blogs in LOL.It has been fun.

Thank you Erin - mine is no more or worse than any of us trying to realsie the dream of a baby.

Hi Laura -*waves*

seussgirl said...

Hi, here from NCLM!
I also have twin boys; I'll have to come back to read more of your story. :)

Heather J. @ TLC Book Tours said...

Thanks for putting up a NaComLeavMo welcome post - I'm finding those very helpful! [I'm using NaComLeavMo labels on the posts at my site ... hopefully that will work for me.] I hope you are meeting lots of other bloggers who share your experience ... I know they are out there and can understand what the rest of us cannot about how you feel. Congratulations on the twins - they're so handsome! :)

Jendeis said...

Came over from NaComLeavMo. Gorgeous picture of your twins. Thank you for pointing me to your introductory post. I think it's often hard for us IFers without kids to remember that IFers with kids do indeed understand our pain.

Brigindo said...

Thanks for dropping by my blog. Beautiful video and beautiful boys.

Fat Girl said...

Hi! Thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting. I'm glad you FINALLY got your beautiful twins. I know in my rant I said that I didn't want it to take me 12 years, but if it had I would still be ecstatic about the beautiful gift of new life. Your boys are gorgeous! =)

Panamahat said...

Hi there! I have found you through NaComLeavMo and because you visited my blog this week. (Thank you!) It is nice to meet some Aussie bloggers, and great to see you have been doing this for a year now - congratulations! I t looks like a lot of hard work.

I am thrilled for you that you have such adorable twins and that you were able to have a successful IVF encounter. I hope to read more about your journey throughout this month, and beyond.

Juicy said...

your babies are stinkin' adorable and since we're about to start IVF, I hope one day we will also have some cuties like yours. :)

Thanks for the welcome note and the hand-holding, I like knowing where to start and I don't like missing any of the story!

take care,

JJ said...

Hi from NCLM=)

Thanks for directing me to your welcome post--it helps to get to know a bit about a blogger when visiting for this NCLM--and I am happy to "meet" you.

Your boys are precious--we are going through our 2nd round of IVF this month-hoping, and hoping!

Anonymous said...

I'm so glad you finally got your miracle babies! God is truly good! Thanks for sharing your story! It is an encouragement to us that are still in the trenches!

Sharon LaMothe said...

Hi Trish....I'm a NCLMer! (although I am not on the list...a day late and a dollar short! But I am still enjoying the fun!)

I loved watching the Video although it keeps stopping in the middle around the sending regrets frame...I would also like to share it with my readers if that is OK with you. I will wait to hear from you.

Your twins are so cute! I hope to come back again and visit sometime!

Have a great week!

Anonymous said...

Hi Trish,
Thank you for visiting my site. Congratulations on your healthy twin boys. Their sister was obviously watching over them to make sure they arrived safely.

Love the twin questions at the bottom of your blog, I'll have to use the "yes, they run all around the house!" comment the next time I get asked "Do twins run in your family."

Mommy Meryl said...

Hi - thanks for stopping by my blog. Congrats on your twin boys - how wonderful for you. I enjoy your blog and look forward to visiting more!

Pamela T. said...

Here from NCLM.

Thanks, Trish, for your visit and comment. Always happy to meet someone new and learn their stories. It's a complex and unexpected world where IF is involved. So much to learn, so much to share...

Ms. Perky said...

Thanks for your visit and comments. You asked for my new URL: http://chezperky.typepad.com

Lori Lavender Luz said...

How can you call this a boring life with all the twists and turns in your journey?

Thanks for visiting my blog, and one more thing: your boys are darling.l

Rachel said...

Your boys are really cute! I am sorry about Charlotte, I am sure you still think of her often.

Thank you for sharing your story.

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