Wednesday, 2 September 2009

Music to my heart

Yesterday marked another day I wish I never had to see , the 5th anniversary of the birth of our stillborn baby ~Charlotte~. I don't write to gain sympathy but to share my feelings and perhaps comfort another walking a similar path.

Unfortunately, as much as I love connecting with others online it can consume our lives if we permit it. Though maybe it isn't such a bad thing on some days.

Yes... sometimes it seems these faceless (well some I have had the privilege of meeting) friends are the ones who communicate more.

I received so many messages on Facebook yesterday and it truly meant more to me than I can say. Simple, beyond measure, words of compassion for my hurting heart. Three family members sent messages too.

I found this ...status shuffle on 'Facebook'
Good friends are those who care without hesitation, who remember without limitation and who love even without communication
I know I do a lot of communicating and connecting online, through email , blog reading and commenting, and lately more Twitter'ing and less of Facebook'ing. I do have real life friends but it seems we are all so busy.

The real life touch is slipping away as we reach for the hand of friendship via a keyboard. My Dh doesn't understand the lure of the laptop and daily web surfing to see what is happening with my dear friends.

I just wanted to say I treasure each comment made and consider it a thoughtful act of friendship -you are all beautiful ;). Your genuine kindness has been much appreciated. Thank you especially for the gentle strength you shared with me.

As it was my DH & I shared a quiet, happy day with our 3yr old sons yesterday, a few hours at a little city beach. It wasn't so much sadness rather enjoying a happy place.

Charlotte was a precious gift ...some people only dream of Angels we cradled one and carry one in our hearts always.
May we never let the things we can't have, or don't have, or shouldn't have, spoil our enjoyment of the things we do have and can have.

These boys are my happy place and their laughter is music to a mother's broken heart.

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the girl in the green scarf said...

I'm so sorry for your loss, I know it must be very difficult, my most lost 2 boys, I am "lucky" I'm the youngest one and i didn't get to know them, but I can tell my mom's sadness on her face every time when she reminds of them..God bless you!<><

Dina said...

Charlotte...what a beautiful name.

I'm sorry for your sorrow.

I'm happy for your joy.

Veronica said...


Anonymous said...

Dear Trish,
I am so sorry Charlotte isn't here with should be chasing her around,with tons of giggles.

thinking of you my friend and Charlotte.

SquiggleMum said...

((hugs)) Trish. Thank you for sharing to help others. xx

tiff(threeringcircus) said...

Thinking of you always, forgetting the precious angel, who brought us together, never.
Hugs my friend.

Leigh said...

Gentle hugs Trish

Mum-me said...

Must be so hard - I don't even want to think how hard - and I don't know what to say. Great to read about how you're focusing on the 'here and now' and the joy your little boys have brought to your life.

Melody said...


You helped me in my time of need so I thank you. Even though I wish you didn't have to.

Sunny Road said...

((hugs)) So sorry for your loss xoxo

Michelle said...

So beautifully written Trish. I am glad you spent the day treasuring your boys and I am sorry you could not have Charlotte with you too. x

The Bumbles said...

You have a healthy perspective, a part of you always on the past to learn to appreciate the joy in your present. You have been through a lot of grief, but you are a very lucky lady too.

katepickle said...

I've been thinking of you these past few days Trish (bad net so couldn't comment till now).... I'm so glad you were able to spend a day with people you love, remembering someone you love....

That photo of you and boys is just gorgeous!

Mary said...

That was so beautifully expressed, Trish. The photo of you with the twins is perfect. I am glad you were able to have a quiet, happy day to celebrate Charlotte's life. I found the 5th to be a particularly difficult anniversary...I hope it was not too much so for you. xo

Vixen said...

I am glad you shared. Glad to know that these anniversaries will always be difficult but can be shaded with love and joy in time.

Thinking of you. I know how you feel, but I still don't know what to say except to hope you know I care.

PlanningQueen said...

"May we never let the things we can't have, or don't have, or shouldn't have, spoil our enjoyment of the things we do have and can have."

I think that I will use this quote. Hope you are making it through okay.

Sarah Lulu said...

Charlotte's birthday.

I hope next year you have a cake ...

I'm so blessed to know of this day now too.

Happy birthday Angel Charlotte.

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