Tuesday, 28 July 2009

Mountains or molehills

or making a mountain out of a molehill...whatever !

It seems lately everything is a mountain and I am struggling. My to do list is undone and my in box is overfull (as is my email and feed reader).
Lightbulbs are exploding in my head as I despair that nothing at all seems to get done despite my good ideas and best intentions.

The path in front of me seems overwhelming at times. It isn't always the big things that wear me down but the constant battles to clean, cook ,budget and maintain a happy household as well as make sure everyone's needs are met.

I was also reading a book in relation to deciding whether a child actions or behaviours or the happening things are a mountain or a molehill.It was interesting to consider and take the long view ...

Does it really matter if he wears baggy pants ?
Does it matter if he hasn't emptied the bin ? ...well no and yes one bag today and tomorrow a mounting mess.
Does it matter if leave folding the clean clothes another day or that dishes are in the sink ?

How we react or respond can also make mountains out of molehills both for ourselves and heap that attitude on our children /spouses.

A very dear friend of mine with young daughters has a very cluttered and untidy house. It also needs a good clean . She works full time and now so does her Dh ...he usually gets home 3hrs earlier but still nothing much changes. No surprise to many ;) of us supermums.

I am not bothered by their 'mess' we only get to visit a few times a year because we live a long way apart. I feel for her and I know it is not her choice.To them maybe it's all molehills. It just isn't important enough.

I know it just wouldn't work in our house , the chaos that reigns in their house would have us tearing our hair out and strips off each other. We would snip and snap constantly.

Too much mess is our house feels like a mountain and creates stress when we run late and can't find important papers,the chequebook or even the twins preschool gear. When the drawers are empty and the clean laundry is piled high waiting to be folded by the good fairies tempers flare.

I know sometimes we are masters at making molehills out of mountains.Except for some organisation the long view says getting basic things done helps minimise the mountains in our lives. Putting off 'our little molehills' soon gets out of hand and you have an impossible mountain to climb just to get to the other side...or the bright side.

I still stick to the mantra this,too shall pass .
As Regina says
  • When in doubt, just take the next small step.
  • Take a deep breath. It calms the mind
  • Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
  • If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
I found this view at Unconstrained Thinking quite contrary but it was food for though sometimes it actually works to make a mountain out of a molehill !

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