Tuesday, 5 February 2013

Making you matter

I while ago I wrote about

Happiness is filling your own love tank

As mothers it is important we make a deposit in our own love tank, to give ourselves emotional and even physical strength to fuel us through the homework day and those 'sleepless' nights.

I've been a parent for nearly 19yrs .................and I'm learned still learning !


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Here are a few more tips to help you.

It's good to engage in healthy behaviours to enhance your day. Firstly, we need to eat well and get plenty of rest.Though it can be difficult with young children...the rest not so much eating !

We can all include more pleasurable activities in each day. ; 10-15mins a day is a good start.

Play your favourite music while doing the unavoidable housework , ironing or even watching the kids play...sing along.

Get up 30 mins earlier to enjoy an aromatherapy bath ,  do your nails or anything pleasurable you can't do with kids on the loose awake.

Get regular exercise in your day no matter what ...walking is fine.

Practice relaxation techniques ...to find a sense of calm. Just lie down and relax each muscle group from head to toe. You can even lie down on a picnic rug with the kids and watch the clouds rolling by (if necessary) for a 5 min rest.

Enjoy a real massage when you can ...or surprise the spouse and take turns.

Schedule one hour a week for making you matter - like an appointment even if you engage the support of a friend/spouse or relative - communicate that it's for your emotional and physical health.


Need to free up more time - my latest time savers

  1. Delegate ...make a chore chart for your children and negotiate payment. They have to start somewhere , be patient and lower your expectations if necessary.
  2. Do your food shopping online - I am going to try click and collect - because we don't have home delivery in our area. It will save me time in queues, aimless wandering and impulse buys. Plus I can budget for exactly what I need to spend (save $ for that massage).
  3. Writing a weekly menu plan (see #2) so I won't need to waste time rushing out to buy last minute dinner ingredients and I can buy and plan around weekly specials.
  4. Let kids catch the school bus ...this alone netted me an extra 2hrs a day or find a buddy system to car pool occasionally.
  5. Put bills, school notes and reminders in the same place so you can find them quickly and attend to them one after the other (if not dealt with immediately).My friend scans everything into her phone now too ...no worries...no panic searching.
Linking up with #IBOT

 

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I think I need to start the shopping online one, I have a bad habit of overspending at the supermarket, if I see something on special, even if I don't need it I buy it. Good tips Trish - Em x
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1 reply · active 645 weeks ago
I am the same Emily with specials, I cannot resist.
That hour at the gym sounds good . We are 30 mins from nearest gym and it's expensive - I need a lock on my bathroom !
great tips Trish. It only took me a couple of years to realise that I need to take time for myself, do things for me, and that if I'm not happy/relaxed, no one around me will be. Luckily, only having 1 child who has now started school affords me lots of time to make sure I'm taking care of ME too!
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1 reply · active 645 weeks ago
Aroha me too though there is always something I feel I should be doing more or I'm trapped by my fingertips at the computer.
Hey Trish, I discovered a great new app called Headspace (it's free) for meditation. It's 10 minutes for 10 days and I love using it at the end of the day before bed. Such a great way to relax and wind down.
And yes! Exercise is a non-negotiable! Must have some of that every day! :) x
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1 reply · active 645 weeks ago
I will check it out Grace , thank you.
ABSO LOVE THIS TRISH. Thanks for the reminder. Definitely need more rest and less online reading. Can't do without exercise like you can't - I love the way running, even on a treadmill, got you through some tough times. Please keep tips like these coming :) thx for sharing, PIP xx
I have been working hard on filling up my own tank lately, but I still need to do a few of these! :) Thanks Trish.
That tip about the bills and phone is a brilliant idea! Thanks for sharing
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I need to write a menu plan, I always have the best of intentions but crumble at the slightest weakness. I've started using pepperplate so hopefully that will get better.
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These are the type of practical tips I need in answer to my IBOT post. I struggle to grab 5 minutes for myself because it never feels worth the time if I can't have an hour or more. That is just a silly approach, if I really knock some sense into myself, because for now, with all that's going on, sometimes 5 minutes quiet to myself is all I'm going to have. Thanks for sharing these. I hope you are keeping well, Trish.
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Such simple ideas to get some time to for you. And so so important. When my tank gets empty I get snappy and resentful. I'm a much better person when I am making sure I matter.
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You're a wise woman Trish! Simple ideas that are easy to implement .
Hi Trish. You are this weeks featured flasher for Flash Blog Friday :-)
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1 reply · active 644 weeks ago
hi Bree

thank you

Kind regards
Trish

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