Tuesday 1 November 2011

10 ways to add spice to your relationship

10 ways to add spice (sans hot chilli ) to your relationship

  1. Start with the little things: a goodbye ~ have  a great day hug and a kiss ! and / or welcome home one !
  2. Hand picked flower or small choc on their pillow (or whatever ticks their boxes !)
  3. Slip a small card or a note or print a funny / cheeky joke to leave in their lunchbox (if you make it) or sneak something into the car...or under the windscreen wipers or tied to antenna...be creative or a random text message if they don't do home made lunches.
  4. Leave a small treat/gift in their lunchbox or a homemade voucher for something - back massage , promise to wash the car together, neck rub...(or #2 whatever ticks their boxes !)
  5. Set aside time for each other, every day, even 5 -10  mins 'face time'
  6. Check out free at home or  $30 date night activities (even stay at home ones can be fun) - schedule them regularly so you both know (ok not so you dread it like the dentist) - plan for a babysitter every so often. (hundreds of ideas here that will get you on the naughty list)
  7. Be alert to each other's moods and feelings ...make a conscious effort to honour and comfort them when they are experiencing tough days or times. (Even if it kills you to be extra sweet !)
  8. Switch off i things and technology & TV one night a week for an early night or #5 & #6 ! *
  9. Ask and remember the bigger things:  their hopes, their dreams, their goals - (write them down) - and support endeavours to change habits or make lifestyle changes (lose weight, stop smoking).
  10. Keep your relationship hawt, young and fresh by doing things differently and surprising them when they least expect it. At least once a week !!!
Ps * If all else fails hide the remote !

It takes a little hard work sometimes, but you know ... I wouldn't have it any other way.

'How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.' Elizabeth Barrett Browning (1806-1861)

IBOT with Jess

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