Tuesday, 1 November 2011

10 ways to add spice to your relationship

10 ways to add spice (sans hot chilli ) to your relationship

  1. Start with the little things: a goodbye ~ have  a great day hug and a kiss ! and / or welcome home one !
  2. Hand picked flower or small choc on their pillow (or whatever ticks their boxes !)
  3. Slip a small card or a note or print a funny / cheeky joke to leave in their lunchbox (if you make it) or sneak something into the car...or under the windscreen wipers or tied to antenna...be creative or a random text message if they don't do home made lunches.
  4. Leave a small treat/gift in their lunchbox or a homemade voucher for something - back massage , promise to wash the car together, neck rub...(or #2 whatever ticks their boxes !)
  5. Set aside time for each other, every day, even 5 -10  mins 'face time'
  6. Check out free at home or  $30 date night activities (even stay at home ones can be fun) - schedule them regularly so you both know (ok not so you dread it like the dentist) - plan for a babysitter every so often. (hundreds of ideas here that will get you on the naughty list)
  7. Be alert to each other's moods and feelings ...make a conscious effort to honour and comfort them when they are experiencing tough days or times. (Even if it kills you to be extra sweet !)
  8. Switch off i things and technology & TV one night a week for an early night or #5 & #6 ! *
  9. Ask and remember the bigger things:  their hopes, their dreams, their goals - (write them down) - and support endeavours to change habits or make lifestyle changes (lose weight, stop smoking).
  10. Keep your relationship hawt, young and fresh by doing things differently and surprising them when they least expect it. At least once a week !!!
Ps * If all else fails hide the remote !

It takes a little hard work sometimes, but you know ... I wouldn't have it any other way.


'How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.' Elizabeth Barrett Browning (1806-1861)

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It's so worth it though. I'm a firm believer in a marriage taking a little work, maintenance, no matter how blissfully in love you are. we do almost all of these things (we need to do the date night thing more though) and it's honestly just lovely.
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1 reply · active 700 weeks ago
Great tips Trish! My hubs and I always have talk time each night and always say I love you. Definitely have to remember to work on your relationships. Its so worth it!
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1 reply · active 700 weeks ago
I love the $30 date night site. Lots of great ideas, some even things that you don't really need to spend $ on if you're creative enough. Great tips there Trish! :)
1 reply · active 699 weeks ago
a great reminder Trish. Even the proper hello and good bye can make such an impact. your little hawt tips are sooo cool! Mr Nutshell will thank you later I am sure!

I may put some 'old spice' onto his pillow for extra points of hilarity!
1 reply · active 699 weeks ago
We were talking about this at mums' group this morning!! My aim this week is to be very intentional and purposeful about my marriage this week. One day at a time.
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goodbadkellie · 700 weeks ago

Ive tried to leave a sweet note in the lunchbox, but my Irishman was apparently ribbed at work about it so I might try the text message idea ;)
1 reply · active 699 weeks ago
it's the little things that count, isn't it? :) sometimes hubby and I will take a day off work just to spend together and watch a movie or something.. bliss.
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1 reply · active 699 weeks ago
So important and so difficult with little children. Great list, I will definitely think about how to incorporate those.
1 reply · active 699 weeks ago
Great list! All incredibly simple things, but often those that get forgotten.
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1 reply · active 699 weeks ago
Great post. Particularly the point about turning off the iThings!

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1 reply · active 699 weeks ago
What a great post. Sometimes all it takes is a little reminder of the things we used to do when we all first fell 'in love'.
xo
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1 reply · active 699 weeks ago
Love the list! Those little things are so important in nurturing a relationship.

I have no problem with the remote, but we could both do with hiding the iPhones ;)
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I love this list. I think it is time that I printed something like this out to keep me remember why I love DH so much
1 reply · active 699 weeks ago
A great reminder to put a little of the effort we did in the early stages of the relationship. It only takes such small things to keep it fresh but it makes such a difference!
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1 reply · active 699 weeks ago
Oh so many great advice on this one. I do a couple of them too. We just rekindled things lately ahem.
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