Friday, 14 November 2008

Surviving stress

Every day we all deal with a certain amount of stress . When you run your own business just getting out of bed can be stressful. After 14yrs of running our own business my DH is feeling very overloaded and overwhelmed. I feel it myself too. Honestly, I have for a while and I see it crushing him.

Everyone experiences workplace stress. As a paediactric nurse being in charge was very stressful with sick kiddos and parents relying on you.I had support though.

Self employment stress is a little different.Often - there's no one to rely on but you. When you work alone, you stress alone even with employees or a partner.

We also haven't had a proper holiday since a week before we adopted out teenage son - over 14yrs ago. Literally we got the call from the adoption agency the day after we got home. We started our current business around not long after .

Sure we have had small breaks here and there of maybe a week but nothing as simple as a holiday ... and we always have work on our minds. Even at home he is on call 24/7.

Running your own small or medium business is one of the most stressful things you can do. Constantly running at a high level of stress, our bodies start to break down, unable to function at their best.

We have rarely opened our business on Sunday because we try to keep it as a day of rest (or for housework or family ) and to go to Church. But sometimes work had to to be done on Sundays just to stay on top of the ever increasing workload...when it has to done by a deadline.
Mostly, you are on your own if clients are relying on you.

When stressed we can get forgetful, short tempted and develop physical symptoms ..headaches, back aches, aches, tummy troubles and pain everywhere.Then there is the immune system that starts to flail ...colds and flus knock us down quickly. You still have to work when you are sick.Then there is depression in the mix.It’s hard to concentrate on anything else sometimes.

Relationships suffer as all systems break down and you can't see a light at the end of the tunnel...just the darkness.

Stress is a combination really of many things. It's a tumble of feelings that pile up like a train wreck and it sends our body into a tailspin.

It compounds as we try to keep pleasing everyone. We are trapped in a constant state of "fight or flight", and the chemicals released into the body may do a great deal of damage...silent and invisible to those watching from the sidelines. Eventually it's unbearable.
Anyway ... finally change is in the wind and like the wings of an eagle we will rise up to meet the new challenges ahead of us. We will still be self employed in same business but there will be a big change in routines. We will step back and maybe try a few new ventures & adventures that we never had time for.

We won't have regular business hours and financially it will mean changes too. We are ready and I know it's long overdue.

I found this sign somewhere and it struck me down ...

How do you deal with stress in your life ?
How does work stress affect you ?
Advice of the day
  1. In all things there's a bright side.It's quite satisfying earning your own income through self employment and being your own boss. Self employment can be a happy career for those who can handle the inevitable stress or find a way to reduce it when the going gets tough.
  2. When you start to feel that self employment stress is weighing you down, if possible ...the first thing to do is just walk away ...if not consider plausible changes. Sometimes decisions can be hard to make but you may just have to do it !
  3. Waste some time on frivolous, fun filled activities ...all the things you never have time for or just put your feet up for change and remember the Island and the mantra ... I feel calmer ! Plus these other stress busters.

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