Tuesday, 26 May 2015

Make your pinky promise ...

It was with great sadness I found out my friend with stage IV breast "terminal" cancer passed away on Saturday.

There is a hole in my heart. I am gutted for her and her family.
She was in her 40's.
I chatted with her via Fb a week before, I planned for a visit in the next 2-3wks. (She lived 2hrs away.)

It wasn't to be .

A teenage son & daughter and a husband whose loss is immeasurable . Who though at peace with her passing , knowing she has gone into God's hands , will grieve her for the rest of their lives.

I don't know the circumstances. It isn't about me and my loss. I cannot imagine how her family is feeling.

It just so happened I was having my radiation in Orange and saw in The clinic her the day she found out her breast cancer had returned.


I was also visiting the day the doctors gave her the raw truth  "how much time do I have" talk . I was shocked they didn't think to have her husband there.

Though , I was asked to leave the room, afterwards - she mentioned it was measured possibly in years. She mentioned her concern for her daughter immediately that it not happen while she was doing her HSC.

Not 11 months.

Eleven months of unplesant treatment , surgery, pain and time away from her family ; for the most part, that robbed my dear friend of all she loved.



I'm not afraid to talk about the big issues on my blog.

I've shared my own personal story and experiences with cancer so others don't have to face it alone.

Someone told me recently
" ...readers are often looking to your blog as a source of advice, inspiration or empowerment, much like turning to a friend "

So as a friend I am sharing this ...

Pink Hope, breast and ovarian cancer prevention charity, have launched their first Pinky Promise campaign – an initiative to encourage Australians to make a pledge with their best friend to reduce their risk of preventable cancer.



Pink Hope believe making a simple pledge or ‘pinky promise’ with a friend is a great way to keep each other accountable.

I would love you to take the pledge and share on your social media sites.

.... you can pledge to get regular screening tests, to maintain a healthy diet, or to stop smoking or reduce alcohol – all of which reduce your risk of preventable cancer.

Not that I think all breast and ovarian cancers can be prevented , but we can make a difference by reducing our risk and early detection.

During the month of May ~ Pink Hope wants to see more than 100,000 people register their pledge at pinkypromise.com.au by the end of June, to prevent more families from going through the distressing experience of cancer diagnosis, treatment and in too many cases losing a loved one.
There is just a week left in May - will you join me ?
The value of living each day to its fullest, not putting off until tomorrow what you could do today. After all, one day, there will not be a tomorrow. 

Time is ticking. Please think about the preventative steps you can take to reduce your risk of cancer this Pinky Promise month.

Excitingly, people who register their pledge at pinkypromise.com.au will go in the draw to win a trip for two to New York City, donated by Emma & Roe by Michael Hill – a wonderful experience to share with a best friend.
Take a selfie with a BFF making a Pinky Promise and upload it to Instagram using our hashtag, and you could laso both shine in the full Pink Hope collection  by Emma & Roe by Michael Hill worth $1,000!
#bffpinkypromise

PS: I'm going to give my friend's daughter a Mother's love Rose plant.Hopefully I can track one down and give her a pinky promise ring.

My pinky promise is to modify my diet and alcohol intake to reduce my risk of reoccurance.

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So sorry to hear this Trish. I will definitely be jumping on board with a pinky promise. Thinking of you and your dear friend's family.
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1 reply · active 511 weeks ago
It is a lovely initiative and I think we are the best people to encourage our friends to modify things they can.
Thank you.
I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. I'll be checking out pinky promise - great idea.
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1 reply · active 511 weeks ago
Thank you Malinda It is a great initiative to encourage friends and have each others back ( and front).
PS I love that song "Brown Paper Packages" are my favourite too.
I'm so, so sorry about your friend xx
2 replies · active 511 weeks ago
Thank you Amy.
I'm channeling my sadness into something positive and I'll run in her honour and fundraise for the cure.
Im so sorry to hear that Trish, your friend was taken far to early from this life, her family and friends xx
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1 reply · active 511 weeks ago
Thank you Michelle, I'm channeling my sadness into something positive and I'll run in her honour and fundraise for the cure.
That is so heartbreaking :( My thoughts are with her family and friends xx The pinky promise sounds like a great idea so I am going to check it out now. Hugs to you Trish xx
1 reply · active 511 weeks ago
Hi Sharyn , I'm channeling my sadness into something positive and I'll run in her honour and fundraise for the cure - fits with my promise to stay fit too, to reduce my risk.
That is so sad. I feel for you and am sorry to hear about your loss. I'll definitely visit the site. Pinky promise. This post is a beautiful tribute to your friend Trish x
1 reply · active 511 weeks ago
Thank you Pinky , I'm channeling my sadness into something positive and I'll run in her honour and fundraise for the cure.
Such horrific and confronting news Trish. Big love to you x
1 reply · active 511 weeks ago
Thank you Em, I'm channeling my sadness into something positive and I'll run in her honour and fundraise for the cure.
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Twitchy Sharon · 511 weeks ago

I'm so sorry to read this, Trish. Impossible for the family to have known ahead that the time in treatment was to be time lost to them. Desperately sad. Glad you are taking care of yourself xxxx #teamIBOT
1 reply · active 511 weeks ago
Yes, I know she would have done anything to be here longer , especially for her children. Thank you Sharon.
I'm so sorry Trish. It's just not fair.
Love the idea of a pinky promise. Mine is to actually book a pap smear. I've been putting it off for too long.
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1 reply · active 511 weeks ago
I'm overdue for mine. I'll make my appointment too.
So sorry to hear this Trish. My thoughts are with you and your friends' family. I am a big fan of Pink Hope and think that the Pinky Promise campaign is just awesome! I promise to get on track and eat more healthy food and drink a bit less wine. Hugs for you xx
1 reply · active 510 weeks ago
I'll raise my glass to that Sam - of water ! Thank you.

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