Tuesday, 18 February 2014

24 years and ways to say I love you

It was 24yrs and one week ago , our future was before us, a blank slate, waiting to be filled with shared dreams and adventures. So last Monday we quietly celebrated 24yrs as man and wife. I didn't have time to blog about it (last Monday) and then I had to get through my surgery and recovery.

Two young twenty-somethings, the world at their feet could never imagine a future filled hope and promise walking into this church in warehouse ...

(we took this 7th Feb - the buildings used to blue and cream bricks) Totally a coincidence I booked a hotel what was across the road -at the rear - and we haven't been here in over 15 yrs or more maybe.
24 years filled with graces from God.
some better and some  worse!
in sickness and health !
richer and poorer !

Staying together in the face of these trials has taken us along some rocky roads.

I'm home now -with my leg drain - and all is right with the world. Except than Nanny doesn't do it that way Mummy.

I'm just so grateful my Mum came to mind our little boys so my husband could be with me when I was feeling vulnerable, scared and knew I needed him more than the boys did.

We were able to enjoy our 24th anniversary together (before my admission).We had no great plans for a big celebration because it isn't our thing- just a quiet dinner at an Italian restaurant. Our 20 yr son visited us in our hotel room and my Hub even invited him to dinner.


Lucky Mr 20 said NO and I didn't have to.

My man has done some very romantic things, the simplest being - bringing me tea and toast in bed (like today).

A small act every day can strengthen your marriage  Sometimes you might only have a minute or two.It might not even need be very day -yet little gestures of love will become a good habit for you both. 

The spouse may be shocked - suspicious -curious surprised initially ,  sometimes they may not deserve it but making the first move can change the tone of your entire household and relationship. I know my sons watch everything their father does and I want the influence to be positive.

I think we've both done most of these things ...at least once in 24 yrs .

  1. Stuff a love note* in their wallet or tuck it under a windshield wiper or write, "I love you," in the steam on the bathroom mirror.
  2. *Maybe offer to give her a back massage at the end of the day.
  3. Leave Post-it notes around the house saying things you love about him or to thank ...thanks for emptying the bins.
  4. Or do a household chore that he usually is responsible for in the marital division of 'labour'
  5. Look up the date of the next full moon and celebrate with a midnight moonrise feast.
  6. He is more a morning person ? Sunrise Surprise - look it up and surprise him by setting the alarm and getting up to a champagne breakfast with the birds (or cows) http://sunrisesunset.com/Australia/ 
  7. Pick a flower from the garden lay it on the pillow or turn down his side of the bed and leave him chocolate (now I'm talking his language) 
  8. Make her/his favorite dinner.
  9. Give an extra long hug when they leave the house.
  10. Send a random sweet text message or send him an e-mail in the middle of the day...just not one that sets off the company spam filter and gets forwarded to everyone in the office.
  11. One weekend , let him sleep in and take the kids out for a surprise too to keep the house quiet.
  12. Write and send via snail mail an an old-fashioned love letter or verse.
  13. Pray for him.
  14. Offer a sincere compliment.
  15. Hold his hand as you're walking when out and about.
  16. Turn off the your TV, computer or laptop whatever and ask about their day.
  17. Crank up the music (don't wake the kids) and slow dance in the lounge room.
  18. Change the desktop wallpaper to a cute photo of you two on your spouse's home computer.
  19. Burn a CD or upload his ipod with tunes from your dating days and include your first dance or fave song.
  20. Despise sport, but your man is addicted? Hate musicals, but your partner can't get enough? Suck it up and buy tickets or tune in and watch with him!
  21. Forget breakfast in bed. Shake it up and eat dessert in bed (and don't worry about the crumbs)
  22. Go to bed early. No books, no iDevices, no remote. Note: that I didn't say sleep unless he really wants to (like my dear one)
  23. Go to a bookstore or music store together, then split up. Your mission: Buy something you know they'll love. Exchange later.
  24. Spend a few nights apart (like hospital) and plan to meet back at home after 48 hours...some suggest absence an aphrodisiac (haha not this time unfortunately)
 How do you say I love you ?
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How romantic! I wouldn't say my husband is romantic like this (I wish he was because I love things like this). My way of saying I love you is little things like doing things for him while he relaxes, arranging date nights or special dinners but I know he just prefers to hear nice words and a good kiss and cuddle.
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1 reply · active 596 weeks ago
Happy anniversary Trish. This is a beautiful list of ideas.. I love your advice to do simple things daily for each other, even if it's just a min or two. Thank you.
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1 reply · active 596 weeks ago
Happy Anniversary! Some great ideas here, and you are right, it is the little things.
xx
1 reply · active 596 weeks ago
nothing fancy! so simple xx
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1 reply · active 596 weeks ago
Lovely post. We do all of those things you mentioned, the simplest are the best. I am blessed with a very romantic husband who is happy to show his love proudly and often. I hope you are feeling better after your surgery. xxx
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Happy anniversary! A quiet dinner at an Italian restaurant sounds perfect to me. Hope you get over your injury in no time!
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Happy Anniversary for last week lovely. You and your hubby are such an inspiration.. to go through all that the both of you have been through and come out smiling the way you do puts so much into perspective for the rest of us. I love that list of sweet things to do and you have given me a reminder of how easily you can show your love how special they are xx
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Congratulations to you and your soul mate, Trish! 24 years is so so special!
I had a giggle at #2, nodded in complete agreement at #13 and know that we need to work at #22.
Much love to you x
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Congratulations, we are 24 years on 5 May - 1990 - a good year for it hey! Lovely ideas, can't say we've done all of them but a fairly good proportion. Hope you are healing well from your surgery too xxx

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Glad to hear you are home and recovering. Remember to take it easy. Nanny's are marvellous aren't they. I bet the boys loved their time with her. Trish I think you and your hubby are so lucky to have each other and I love all your little ideas on how to show love and appreciation. Sending link to hubby ;)
My partner isn't overly romantic but I know when he does things he does it because he means it, which is enough for me. He was sick on Valentines Day and I wasn't expecting anything but he surprised me on Monday night by saying that he wanted to go out to dinner tomorrow as a late Valentines Day dinner. We will have Mr 4 with us, but the place we are going has a massive playground so we hardly see him when we go there!
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These are very sweet things Trish, sounds like you have a very sweet hubby, mine not so much in that respect but he does have moments of brillance every now and then. Even him saying I love you as he walked out the door to do a night shift was a lovely gesture that isn't done much. We're all different I suppose. xxx
Congratulations, 24 years! Wow. It puts a smile on my face when I hear things like this. It really is an achievement. I love idea No #15: Hold his hand as you're walking when out and about. It's such a simple and little thing, but for me, it's more. It's love!
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Happy Anniversary, Trish! Hope we can keep it as fresh and wonderful as you both have when we reach 24 years and beyond just like you!
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That is so sweet! They are all great ideas. Might text this link to my hubby for a not-so-subtle hint
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Congratulations! I have been married for 16 years but we were childhood sweethearts so probably together around the same time as you! (I's have to work it out!)
Some lovely suggestions for romance there, now just need to find some energy to put them in place! x
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floodproofmum · 595 weeks ago

Beautiful ideas, sometimes we forget to place romance as a priority :)
Congratulations Trish and Mr Trish :) 24 years goes so fast yet so long doesnt it. I love all your points. I just did the whole suspicious reaction when hubby asked if he could hang the washing (funny i didnt know he knew we had a clothes line) turns out he just wanted to make sure he had five days worth of gym clothes ready - but he hung everything so i dont care and yes i appreciated the help.
Little gestures ... i should work on these more.
Glad you are home ok and lucky you have a Granny even if she does do it all the wrong way :)
Thank you for all your sharing yesterday of our page and for linking up today - i appreciate you and your time too! xx
Happy anniversary Trish, hope it was wonderful! Some of these ideas are so lovely, it's all about the thought.
Hope you're on the mend and feeling better, hun xx
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Congratulations! I love a romantic story <3 :)
Congratulations Trish and Mr Trish :) 24 years goes so fast yet so long doesnt it. I love all your points. I just did the whole suspicious reaction when hubby asked if he could hang the washing (funny i didnt know he knew we had a clothes line) turns out he just wanted to make sure he had five days worth of gym clothes ready - but he hung everything so i dont care and yes i appreciated the help.
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