Tuesday, 4 November 2008

Picture yourself ...

Ko Poda Beach
Ko Poda Beach,
originally uploaded by Kalabird.
Picture yourself ...on an idyllic island.
See yourself on the sun-drenched and bleached white sands.
Gaze in awe at the blue,blue sea.
Imagine what you are wearing, the relaxed way you are lying , or walking on this beach at sunset.
Feel the breeze flowing through your hair.
Hear the soft roar of gentle waves lapping the beach.
Note the calm smile on your face ...
now this is where I want to be.

Now imagine yourself ...what it feels like to be there (0r is it here?)
Seriously... tonight, I am feeling blue. I heard today ~ last Tuesday a precious little boy was born too soon and his family had to say goodbye~ too soon.
Nothing prepares you.
It's life shattering.
I feel for his family and their friends.
Unimaginable grief.
Heartbroken , dreams and hopes stolen away.
I wish I could reach out and hug them and cry with them.

I remembered also it was almost 12 months ago we went to Fraser Island- OMG my babies have grown so much ... including their hair. I cannot imagine life with out them and yet I do live my life without their sister. I never imagined I would.
She is missing , she is missed and I wish no family ever has to go through this.

November 2007 -Fraser Island Queensland

I wish I could go back right now.
Advice of the day
  1. Stockpile beautiful moments - write them down, take pictures or blog about it . Go back over something every day... especially when you feel sad or blue and in need of a 'happy' .
  2. Cherish your children for what they are , not for what you would like them to be ... spouses too. Hug them more often than they deserve.
  3. Put love notes in the Spouse's lunch box. Love notes cost nothing - but the smile it brings is beyond price...

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Trish said...

my embedded comment box was BROKEN ?
I changed back to the pop up.

Thanks Bettina for letting me know ...sorry if you couldn't comment.
*sob* I was wondering why nobody loved me or rather my last post.

tiff said...

Hugs Trish.

It is a bittersweet time.
I will hag all of my cherubs just a tiny bit tighter.

Kerrie said...

Hi Trish...

Found you at WTBAY...my partner and I had a beautiful holiday on Fraser in January this year, the first time since we met that we have had more than one night away together without our children. Don't get me wrong, we love them dearly and love having them on holiday with us...our relationship always has had the children though.

Now I'm rambling...thanks for that flashback...we had the loveliest time at Lake McKenzie, it was so amazingly blue and clear.



Trish said...

@Tiff - you know I know what you mean.

@Kerrie - Lake McKenzie was awesome . I would love to go back very soon...sans Kids as much as I love them. Thanks for visiting.

Anonymous said...

Moving post, made me quite detirmned to make the most of every minute.

Karin said...

I try to reflect on all the good too. I often look at photos of my son when he was a baby so I can remember that this little sassy and opinionated almost 4 year old is the same person as the smaller version! (I'm going through a challenging period...)

Thank you for visiting my blog!

PlanningQueen said...

It is such very sad news, you must truly understand what they are going through. Take care of yourself.

Pencil Writer said...

Trish, After reading this (Tuesday) post I think I understand the message you left me on my blog. I was hoping the outcome was not what you mentioned above. My hugs and prayers go out to the families concerned. Please pass them on where needed. Thanks.

Trish said...

@Rhubarbwine - I feel same

@Karin - I hope it improves

@Nicole - sadly I do and thank you

@Pencil writer - yes, It's Al's 'baby' I will pass on the message.Thank you.

Joyful Noise said...

I found you through Wordless Wednesday but wanted to thank you for this post...everyday is a gift - thank you for reminding me of that!

Jenn said...

Great advice today, I love the idea of stockpiling memories. That is fantastic.

It is such a hard thing to go through, losing a child you haven't even gotten to know yet, yet love so much. My heart goes out to that family.

C said...

Beautiful! What a slice of heaven!

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