Wednesday, 19 December 2007

Christmas Flashbacks

I borrowed this idea from Amanda at The Milk Bar
I have been thinking of what to do for a Christmas post ...doing it made me think about things I haven't thought of in years.

Christmas 1967 ...

I was about the same age my twins are now 17.5 months. I was the first grandchild on my mother's side . It was my 2nd Christmas ,so of course I don't remember anything. My mum was 20 yrs old and her 4 siblings were aged approx 9 , 11,13 [brothers] & 17 (sister). I imagine it would have been fun. The Christmases we spent with them always were. My uncles were like older brothers to me and delighted in rough play and teasing me... as well as spoiling me.

Christmas 1977 ...
We spent most of our Christmases with my mother's family.I was 11years old.The table was fully extended with loads of food. My mother was a good cook and my grandfather a generous host. We slept over in the lounge room and the adults partied on in the other room. My grandmother would have gone to midnight Mass - on Christmas eve I can't remember the first year I was allowed to go to. The adults would be putting together our Christmas presents and testing them.
My brother was 8, almost 9 and my sister 6.5yrs. We had a new baby cousin that I adored and loved to mother. We played backyard games and ate a hot baked dinner no matter how hot it was outside. We did see my Dad's father and step wife , a few other cousins but usually just a quick visit.

Christmas 1987 ...
Again we spent most of Christmas with my mother's family.I was 21years old.I had just finished the equivalent to my degree in Nursing. I worked part of the day as a nurse. The table fully extended and an extra coffee table for little kids .Loads of food. I helped with cooking. I partied with the adults .We had much younger cousins now - 8 months, 2, 3, 3.5, & 10. Again Christmas was for the kids and we all played with the kids and enjoyed their toys and ate a hot baked dinner no matter how hot it was outside. My uncle,K passed way 2 months before @31yrs old - so my Grandmother was very sad this Christmas. I hadn't met my husband yet.

Christmas 1997 ...
I had been married 7, almost 8 years .My Mother in law lived with us in her own separate place but it was under our main roof attached by garages. We had our own home and everyone came to our place We had one acre property and a swimming pool.It is always scorching and stinking hot in Australia on Christmas day.

Our son D was 4.5 yrs old. My grandparents were by now living in a nursing home but we had them out for the few days staying with us. My Grandfather was not well we knew it would possibly be his last Christmas.(He passed way 3 months later) I remember he knew it too. He was very sad that year.
My youngest uncle was engaged to be married in March and my other uncle had a new wife(2nd).
My niece, A was 2 yrs old , my SIL 7 months pregnant with M . I can't remember if we saw my husband's family that Christmas day. One of his sister's moved to Queensland over 1200kms away in August 1997.
It was always a bit awkward with my husband's divorced parents and being that his mother lived with us... deciding who would come and see us when.

Christmas 2007 ...
All my grandparents have passed away in last decade. My Father passed away 2 yrs ago. It has been 3 yrs since my daughter was stillborn. We welcomed another niece (now 9) and nephew(now 5) and my cousins M (9 - my guess is he was conceived around that Christmas with - 25th Sept birth date) .
My sister also has a new 'foster' daughter S, (9) , to celebrate Christmas with this year.

This year I am feeling a little lacking in Christmas spirit .I am still looking forward to lots of food, friends and family. I am still excited. I just hate the commercialism of Christmas and the exchanging of gifts and stuff we don't really need but give out of obligation. I would rather give to where it was live saving like OXfam,World vision, BCI, Tear. We do Kris Kringle with my family but my inlaws' didn't want to this. One sisterinlaw said she wasn't doing any gifts , and the other seemed shocked when I said I wouldn't buy any either. I can't afford to buy for all the adult nieces/nephews and they don't like my taste either. Christmas chocolate stocking - yes !

We are the Christmas hosts - twice. It will the first time in over 4 years. All my in laws are coming here Christmas day [ mother in law and Father in law and his wife-hmm that will be fun] and my extended family will be here Boxing day... except my 'younger 'cousins won't all be here. They are busy with their own partners,families and in laws. My SIL & family are also visiting from Queensland.
We will go to Church as a family to celebrate Jesus's birthday and the real message of Christmas.

My toddler twins S & J won't know much different -they will enjoy ripping the paper and perhaps be overwhelmed by all the cuddles and attention. I tried to ask people for less toys. We hardly bought them anything. They have so many toys and aren't into anything.

They love everyone so it should be fun. We will eat too much food, and it will be mainly salads along with cold ham, turkey,chicken and pork (maybe with some roast potatoes and hot gravy), fruit and pavlova for dessert. We might have a game of backyard cricket and kids might cool off in the small outdoor spa.

Flash forward---2047, S & J will write:

2007--This was only our 2nd Christmas so we don't have any memories of it. We imagine that it would have been a warm time with our parents, brother, cousins and people who loved us. We got so much Christmas booty.


frog ponds rock... said...

hehehe.. excellent .. I am totally shocking with gifts.. I have to give them as soon as I buy them..

I like the idea of Family getting together and sharing food and stories on christmas day...

I filled veronicas room up with balloons one year.. hehehe 700 balloons. thats what i like to do on christmas..
I hate 'having' to give gifts.. so I don't.. (to the adults i mean)

Tammy said...

I love the last part of your post with your little ones. We lost a baby five years ago close to Christmas, so it's always a hard thing to remember.

baby~amore' said...

Kim - that would have been magical surprise - who blew them up ? must have taken a lot of air *wink*
I am a bit the same - I get so excited I want to see their expressions straight away.

Tammy - I am so sorry for the loss of your precious baby. Thanks for sharing.

FRIGGA said...

That was a great post - I love how you can remember back to all the different stages of your life. I hope you have a Merry Christmas this year too! :-)

baby~amore' said...

thanks Frigga Merry Christmas to you too.
It took some thinking back I tell you ... then it all amazed me at the timing of the '7' decades -all very significant.

Childlife said...

What a great post! Thanks for sharing your memories and I hope this year will be filled with special new ones!

Lil Knitter said...

That was a great post...a little walk back in time. I don't think I would have remembered enough details to do did so well with yours.
The last one was really cute...Christmas
Merry Christmas!

baby~amore' said...

thanks Karen - I am sure it will be with the little ones to make us laugh.
Lil Knitter - I was amazed myself - though I had to expand a little on my fading memories and count off - what happened when.
The Christmas booty - well that won't be from us but The family are sure to disregard my advice of my toys please.

Cathy said...

That was a great post - a few tears as I remembered people who are no longer with us... I love Christmas - always have and always will. An uncle of mine died when he was just 30 (I was 13) and his birthday was Christmas day. I have two little boys of my own (aged 1 and 2 so sometimes I think they may as well be twins! Your boys are gorgeous by the way). You're welcome to stop by my blog anytime.

baby~amore' said...

thanks Cathy - I think at Christmas our loved ones no longer with us are most sadly missed... it is when most of family gets together and their absence is noted.

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