My Little Drummer Boys: Shattered and the Whine Free Zone

Tuesday, 19 February 2013

Shattered and the Whine Free Zone

I've been on edge and anxious all week as my husband had his yearly PET scan yesterday.
To check ...

I had no-one to tell how worried I was.

“Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.” ~Regina Brett

In my Facebook feed (no offense) there is so much whining lately.

“Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.” ~ Regina Brett

I wanted to fast forward to today and then NOT.
His appointment with his oncologist today and it was thankfully all OK.

Yesterday was such a bad day emotionally and physically that I am not willing to repeat it. I was alone, with my boys, as my husband was in Sydney having his scan and I couldn't be with him.

Sunday night was worse. I was so over their whining {and others but I couldn't switch off Facebook}.

I have so many friends going through the worse times.
Worse.

I knew the remedy to whining and fighting is to give in and say yes. It was easier at the time, after I'd screamed a few ~~dozen~~ times and felt like world's worst mother.

I want to them [and everyone] to count their blessings and not their problems.

“If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.” ~Regina Brett

I'm trying not to judge but telling me you got a speeding fine ...you are tired ... you don't like your inlaws ... !

Here is my rule for today {hopefully for a longer term}.

When 'you' whine, you have to think of a blessing : be thankful.

For example...They whined all the way walking from the bus stop at the gate to front door ... I said shall I show you a picture of a boy with no legs ? I didn't ...yet !

I am thankful I can walk, thankful they can walk and we have a home to walk home to.

That wasn't so bad...for me.

We will see how this goes.

I shattered my iPad screen today and I can't whine about it because it was my fault.

If you have time to whine and complain about something then you have the time to do something about it. ~Anthony J. D'Angelo,

PS:You think you have problems ...read this story about Emma.

What is your thankful blessing for today ?

♥

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Anne @ Domesblissity · 639 weeks ago

Oh Trish. This couldn't have come at a better time for me. I haven't been handling things too well this last week. It always puts things into perspective when you read about someone else's tragic story. I really need to stop feeling sorry for myself and just get over it. Thank you for writing this.

Anne xx

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cat@jugglingact · 639 weeks ago

So very true - we need to focus on the positive,

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bubsweatandtears 26p · 639 weeks ago

Health is such an emotional roller coaster Trish. It so pays to remember the parts of your life you're grateful for when it feels like all the little parts are floating up the creek. Thanks for honest perspective as usual x
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bubsweatandtears 26p · 639 weeks ago

ooh and P.S. bloody great news about hubby!
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metinagray 11p · 639 weeks ago

Thank you for posting this and sharing the article about Emma, Trish. It has definitely made me stop for a moment. It's easy to let things get over the top of you Every one has their own battles. Glad to hear that your hubby is ok. x

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Grace · 639 weeks ago

Thank goodness Hubby got the all clear, Trish.
I agree with you on the whining thing. This is why I limit my time on social media. It can be such an easy outlet for people to blurt and not think. Sending you hugs and prayers x

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bybeckyh 40p · 639 weeks ago

So glad to hear he got the ok.
And, I so hear you on the whinging. I've been working on being actively thankful in order to help my moods, though, you post has made me stop and wonder if I've taken the extra step and put a stop to my FB whinging. It's just so easy to do. Sending love xx
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havealaughonme 84p · 639 weeks ago

Such fantastic news for you hubby - I am guilty of being a moaner at times. But it's just superficial - I know how bloody lucky and amazing I have it - although at 4.30 in the morning it's sometimes hard to see. But then again, I'm grateful to have my 3 angels, to be healthy and have few worries. You are good for my soul Trish, more than you'll ever know. Thanks x
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del · 639 weeks ago

Hooray for great news, so glad that hubby got the all clear.
I may not be lurking social media much these days but the whining is everywhere. I am going to try your whine and blessing scenario in the real world and hope that it rubs off on those around me.
Thanks and take care. xo
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Cathy · 639 weeks ago

So true, there is always someone worse off than us. But sometimes whining is just a way to let off steam and survive...and I think that's okay sometimes as well. Your method is great - if you whine, balance it with a blessing :) Glad your husband's scans came back clear - waiting, and waiting so far away, would have been very hard!
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kermi 39p · 639 weeks ago

I have to say I agree with that Trish... on so many levels.
So glad the scans showed everything was great for your husband.
Here's hoping both my boys' ones tomorrow are too!
xxx

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dee · 639 weeks ago

I know what you mean why complain I find if I do the person i am whingeing to just shuts up.So what do i do jump in the shower and cry till i cant no more then go and try life again.sometimes it works sometimes no.i like your idea 1 whingeing-1 blessing will give it a try.PS hope all went well with your husband-love dee
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Lisa · 639 weeks ago

Glad hubby's scan came back clear. Whining seems to be a universal thing these days. I think we are all just too impatient and want everything right this very minute. We all just need to be thankful for our health and loved ones. Glad health-wise things are looking up for your family.
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Twitchy · 639 weeks ago

So glad to hear your husband's scan is fine. Now I may be a little devil here now Trish but bear with me. I don't think there's anything wrong with feeling overwhelmed or down here or there and owning it. It's the bigger picture that matters- how you aim to look at things overall. I suspect there are some people trying to force down feelings or hide them because they don't want to be seen as 'whingers'- but denying natural emotion may well be more detrimental. Same with having a cry when you need it. You can't be strong every single day. Let it out I say!

You have the best intentions, I admire that. But humans are human. We are fallible and not always invincible and it's ok to admit it. Take care Trish, there will always be better days too. xxx #teamIBOT
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melbo · 639 weeks ago

Trish great news about the scan and so relieved for you all!

Sorry about your terrible day and that you felt so overwhelmed. It's hard enough at the best of times, let alone when you're ill.

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seana · 639 weeks ago

“If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.” ~Regina Brett
This is going to stay with me for a very long time, it's SO true.
Woke at 3am, making the most of it. All emotional just now, plenty healthy weeping, but NO WHINING... my life is great. This family is healthy, Mum is sick but not too bad and it's just bloody life. No whining!

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Bec · 639 weeks ago

Glad hubby's scan was okay Trish. I read regularly but don't often comment. This post spoke out to me mainly because of all the whinging I've been doing about the buses lately. The train is out of action until at least Sept so I'm bussing it - which doubles, if not more my trip into work. But instead of whining I'm going to say - I'm grateful I have a job to go to. I'm grateful I can catch a bus and don't have to drive, I'm grateful that my work is flexible so if I'm late (yet again) as the bus is running late it's not the end of the world.
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sharibrewer 33p · 639 weeks ago

I am so glad that your husband is ok, Trish. I think to whine is a human trait, and no-one begrudges their friends having an occasional rant BUT to dust yourself off and reframe it as a positive is a skill well worth practicing and you've done it beautifully.

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lisabartoncollins 37p · 639 weeks ago

I had a big rant this week about having diabetes, but the while time I was whinging I felt guilty because there are worse things in the world. I think that even though there will always be somebody worse off than you, sometimes you just have to let off a little steam.
I'm happy to hear your husband is OK.
xx

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jessnewman877 75p · 639 weeks ago

Thanks for this Trish.
I've been going up and down at the moment with feeling 'woe is me' one minute, and 'I'm so blessed' the next. Need to try and get the latter to stick a bit better
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heyhoewarren 73p · 639 weeks ago

Great perspective Trish! It is definitely easier to whinge. I do try to find something each day that I'm grateful for. I'm glad your hubby's scan came back fine.
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Redcliffe Style · 638 weeks ago

Great post! I have no patience for whinging. I am always trying to tell my girls to focus on the bigger picture and stop complaining about the little things. but when big people focus on such little and silly things I have to walk away. Rachel xx
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